Narcissism is a term which gets its name from Ovid Narcissus, a handsome young chap who refused point blank to have “relations” with anyone who offered themselves to him. He had never seen his own reflection. The nymph Echo saw him one day walking through the forest, and fell in love with him. Echo was unable to say what she felt, because she had been cursed by the goddess Hera to only be able to repeat others' words back to them. Ive no idea what Echo had done to piss Hera off but I digress, anyway Narcissus heard her but could not see her, and when he asked, "Who's here?", all Echo could reply was, "Here." One day, when Narcissus became thirsty and stopped by a pond to take a drink, he saw his reflection in the water for the first time. Not recognizing himself, he fell in love with his reflection. Unable to consummate his love, Narcissus pined away at the pool and changed into the flower that bears his name, the Narcissus.
OK so now we know where the word comes from, what does it mean, well many interpretations can be taken from the word but to start with "narcissism" often means inflated self-importance, I along with many serial killers and super villains have been accused of being a narcissist. I honestly can’t say that I am a true classic narcissist as when I see my reflection in the mirror I am more of the opinion that maybe a scarf of some sort is in order so as not to scare the children if I have to venture outdoors.
The basic ingredients needed to cook up a good narcissist are as follows.
Narcissists think they are better than others.
Narcissists' views tend to be contrary to reality. In measures that compare self-report to objective measures,
narcissists' self-views tend to be greatly exaggerated.
Narcissists perceive themselves to be unique and special people.
Research upon narcissists’ behaviour in resource dilemmas supports the case for narcissists as being selfish.
To be a good narcissist it would be great if you had all the following traits but just a few would suffice to get you on your way to becoming a regular General in the third riech’s return.
An obvious self-focus in interpersonal exchanges
Problems in sustaining satisfying relationships
A lack of psychological awareness
Difficulty with empathy
Problems distinguishing the self from others
Hypersensitivity to any insults or imagined insults
Vulnerability to shame rather than guilt
Haughty body language
Flattery towards people who admire and affirm them
Detesting those who do not admire them
using other people without considering the cost of doing so
Pretending to be more important than they really are
Bragging (subtly but persistently) and exaggerating their achievements
Claiming to be an "expert" at many things
Inability to view the world from the perspective of other people
Denial of remorse and gratitude
So now that we have all this information it has become abundantly clear to me that whilst I would love to see things from the point of view of others, I'm afraid I cant actually get my head that far up my own arse. Bingo, got it.
We all see narcissists at work every day when we look through the tabloid papers or switch on the idiot box. Acquired situational narcissism (ASN) is what celebrities suffer from, your Simon Cowells and many of the “things” that he creates all are classic cases of ASN.
ASN differs from conventional narcissism in that it develops after childhood and is triggered and supported by the celebrity-obsessed society: fans, assistants and tabloid media all play into the idea that the person really is vastly more important than other people, triggering a narcissistic problem that might have been only a tendency, or latent, and helping it to become a full-blown personality disorder.
Right then the post has just arrived and there is a letter from my life assurance company Zurich, apparently my life cover has now gone up to £118,333, after informing my wife of the increase I have suddenly become aware of a roller skate positioned at the top of the staircase. Not unusual you may think but We don’t have kids or any roller skates. The worrying thing is not the positioning of the aforementioned skate at the top of the stairs but the speed with which it has been acquired.